A surgeon, after examining your breasts, talking about the breast that has been the subject of the “abnormal mammogram:”
That’s cancer.
Yes, before a biopsy is even done. The biopsy, therefore, is to determine exactly what kind of cancer.
Because, you see, this is “advanced, localized,” in his words.
The next step is to see an oncologist. His office is going to set up the appointment with an oncologist as soon as they can get one. He thinks that treatment will go this way: chemotherapy to shrink the tumor followed by surgery to get rid of the rest of it.
I am more upset than I can say, as I’m sure you all can understand.
Continued prayers, good thoughts, and whatever you have, are appreciated.
I’m still not effing done yet, but a lot of tears are going to be shed through this whole ordeal.
Please God help me get through this.
Oh, Judy.
This f*cking sucks.
Judy……… I love you. I wanted you to know that.
I don’t know what to say. Sending so many good thoughts your way that there’s no room left in my brain for anything else.
(((((((Judy))))))
Sh*t. That’s all I have to say about that right now. Sending you love and all good things.
I give you my hugs, tears, love, prayers and strength to share with you, Judy – and with Frank and with Nate.
I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry, Judy. If there’s anything I can do, please let me know. I don’t mean this in a theoretical way either — seriously let me know.
You don’t know me, but I want to lend my support, prayers and wishes.
I am just so sorry Judy. I am in tears (as if that helps) but it just sucks to hear this is happening to you. Sucks. And I’m angry for you. And wish…oh I don’t know what I wish. Many, many prayers through all of this… bathing you in them right now. ((((((((Hugs))))))
Oh, Judy. I am so, so, so sorry. I have been thinking about you all week, hoping this post would never have to go up.
You will continue to be in my prayers, and yes, please let me know if you need anything else. For real. If I can give it, it’s yours.
((((Hugs))))
Judy –
You don’t know me but I am praying for you and your family. I hope the good wishes and healing thoughts of those who have commented and those who have read and are thinking of you combine with the thoughts of the many who know you personally and surround you with love and healing power.
Maryelena
*HUGS* Hang in there, you’re not done.
Oh Judy.
Many (((((((((hugs)))))))))).
Love you Judy!
My home is open for some R&R if needed. I live in warm land, so please feel free!
Sending many hugs, prayers, wishes and thoughts from this corner. Shedding some tears. You are SO NOT DONE. I know this is so not the news you wanted to hear, but you are SO NOT DONE. I am so sorry you had to get this news. So sorry.
(((((((Judy)))))))
You will get through this, Judy. You will get through it, I know. We are here, we’re all praying, and I know you have support from every walk of life.
My thoughts and prayers will continue throughout. Sending you hugs and every possible comfort.
HI! I found you thru another blog, and wanted to let you know that you have my prayers. many hugs!
Oh, Judy, I came here today praying I wouldn’t see those words. I know the shock you are in….in runs through your mind and body the instant you hear the news. I know the world looks different probably to you today. I know you are in utter disbelief. But, believe me, you WILL get through this. The day will come where today seems like a distant memory.
I’ve known so many people over the years who have had breast cancer and the drugs and treatment they have are AMAZING. They can do things today that they only dreamed of just a few years ago. Newer and newer treatments come out all the time. And, remember, whatever you read on line is WORSE than the reality. I would always scare the hell out of myself needlessly when I went looking for info on my own.
Sometimes I think it’s helpful too to think of those who have fought this battle before us. My hero was Lance Armstrong. When I was in my hospital bed and getting my chemo I was watching him, in disbelief as he won his first Tour de France after battling metastatic testicular cancer. He came back stronger AFTER the cancer.
You can contact me anytime. You have my email, right? My cell is 860-966-2115. Also, there is a great deal of support online.
(((hugs)))
What awful words to hear and to have to digest, which somehow seem worse at this time of the year (though I can’t think of a good time to hear them). I’m sorry, and I’m praying for you. And I’m thankful we live in a time when we have so many good treatments – may your doctors have great wisdom and ability and also great bedside manner as they interact with you!!
Oh, Judy…I’m so sorry.
It stinks and it’s wrong and I wish there was more I could say. You’re in my prayers.
*HUGS*
Oh no. I don’t know what to say, other than I love you very much and I’ll do anything I can to help you get through this. I’ll see you soon.
I’m so sorry to hear about this! I had been following and I hoped this wouldn’t be the outcome.
I’ll be thinking about you and praying for you and your family, (((((biggest warmest hugs))))
I’m so sorry. No you are not done yet. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Love to you, Judy, and to Frank and Nate.
Oh, (((Judy)))
Praying and praying for you and your family…
I’m sorry too. Thinking of you today and always.
Judy- i’m thinking of you, and praying for you and your family. You will get through this- with love and strength and support, you just will.
Cynthia
I came here by way of Margie’s blog. I just want to offer you my support. FWIW my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer two years ago. Hers was stage II, her-2 posistive with no known lymph node infiltration and multiple tumors. She had a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. That journey started two years ago. She is doing well now and is leaving tomorrow for a vacation in Vegas. This is a tough and scary. I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that others have walked this path before you and survived. Please lean on the internets if you need to. We are here.
It’s just a bombardment of feelings and information in the beginning, but I know you will get through this. You are held in a cradle of caring community. Many people wish the best for you, for health and strength and love. Sending my prayers and love to you… And *breathe* Haaaah….
I’ve been holding my breath all week. Shite.
I’ll be praying for you Judy. And I’ll keep praying too.
Ughhh time to paint warrior stripes across your face, get a tattoo, try something new and fight like hell to get to keep doing so. Praying from my side of the planet that you will feel the presence of the Lord fighting right beside you.
Oh Judy,
I haven’t checked your blog in a week or so and I come and find this turn of events.
Judy, YOU ARE NOT DONE YET. YOU ARE NOT DONE YET.
I have so much that I want to say and give you all the reassurances in the world, but the best thing I can tell you is that my aunt had this diagnosis two years ago and she came through the other side, healthy and as sassy as ever. Ok, she has fake b0obies and probably no nipples, but also no chemo or radiation. I just wanted you to know that story.
YOU ARE SO NOT DONE YET.
I am sending you wishes for pockets of calm within your storm. I send you many, many kisses and hugs. One day at a time, your peeps and your family and your strength will get you through this. Even during the times when you don’t thing you have the strength, you will find it. Let everyone help you.
Love you,
Tina
Je prie pour toi, Judy. Pour toi et pour ta famille. Je t’embrasse très fort
Oh Judy I am so sorry to read this. God is with you. Blessings my friend. In the darkness a light shines. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. i am praying for you and your family.
Just wanted to send some good vibes and hopeful blessings your way.
I step off a while for a break and since I miss checking in on folks, I log back on … and WHAT??? Dammit, Judy, I’m so sorry to read this.
Of all the internets I know and have come to consider a friend, you are the snarkiest snark around, and with that snark there’s immeasurable strength. Anytime you write, no matter your message, it’s always feisty and strong and has this “don’t mess with me or those I love” tone in it, ya know? And that’s what everyone loves about you.
And so, biiiiiiiig hugs to you and your family. I’m thinking and thinking and thinking of you. And I’m sending you all my care and love and concern, and all the good thoughts and vibes I’ve got.
Gretchen
Oh Judy. I have been absent from my regular blog rounds for a while and – shit, shit, shit. I’m sorry that you and your family are having to deal with this. Your voice is so wise – and funny – and thoughtful – and cancer CANNOT, WILL NOT, shut you up. Please know that you are loved and prayed for and held in the light.
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